Ever hear the quote from the movie Field of Dreams – “Build it and they will come”? Confidence in yourself is like the field, and if you build up your confidence, success will come to you.
We all have that little voice in our heads, you know the one – the voice that says, “whoa! You can’t do this!” It tends to speak up when we’re confronted with new situations, because, well – we’ve never done it before! How do we know we won’t fail? It’s our brain’s way of protecting us from getting hurt. The problem is – if we never try anything new….EVERYTHING will always be new!
Self-confidence is like another voice in our head that tells the doubting voice, “Chill out, we got this!” It gives you the courage to act, to put yourself out there and make things happen. And when you’re confident, other people can feel it – they see you walk in the room and they think, “wow, she’s got it going on!“.
Ever see a baby try to take their first steps? One step – boom, on the floor. She pulls herself up, maybe cries a bit, but eventually she tries again – and falls! But she pulls herself up, and this time takes three steps, four steps….and you can see it in her face, she’s got it! She may fall down a million more times, but each time she gets a few steps going, she gets more and more confident, until she’s running laps around the table and your life is now spent chasing a speedy toddler.
Taking small steps is the key to building your own confidence. Try something new that’s always alluded you – learn a language, or how to play an instrument. Maybe a recipe that’s always seemed a bit hard. Work on your new skill a little each day, until you’re able to say a sentence in French, or play “Hotel California” on the guitar. Just think – once you’re able to plate that Beef Wellington like a professional chef, your self-confidence will soar, and give you wings to tackle the next new thing that comes your way.
Learning confidence is not a one-time course; it’s a life-long endeavor. Each of us needs to work out that “confidence muscle” on a regular basis, or else we will get weak – just like when you skip the gym for a couple of weeks. You know how you feel like you’re gonna die 5 minutes into the treadmill? That’s what happens when we don’t continue to work on our confidence levels.
Continue to purposefully look for new things to try. Take on new tasks at work, take a class in a subject you know nothing about, write a blog….anything that pulls you out of your comfort zone. You’ll find that little negative voice in your head will begin to fade, and be replaced with a strong, superhero voice that says, “Heck yeah, I can do it!”